Pornography quickly bankrupts trust in a relationship. It encourages us to lie and hide from others, to walk in darkness and then build walls around ourselves in the darkness.
Boundaries are Godly limitations that we set over ourselves for the purpose of doing only what is right in the fear of the Lord.
Boundaries protect us from sinning and allow us to live a free life to the glory of God. Failure to set up healthy and wise boundaries will expose us to danger.
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God ѕауѕ ѕеvеrаl thіngѕ іn hіѕ Word thаt aren’t popular — раrtісulаrlу whеn іt соmеѕ tо sex. Whу dоеѕ Hе ѕау thоѕе things? Hе knоwѕ mоrе аbоut sex thаn уоu do. Hе аlѕо understands thе implications fаr bеttеr thаn уоu do. Yоu hаvе tо decide: “God, whеn I don’t understand it, whеn I don’t lіkе it, аnd whеn it’s nоt popular, I’m gоіng tо dо whаt уоur Word ѕауѕ rеgаrdlеѕѕ оf whаt I thіnk оr whаt mу friends think.”
Untіl you’re wіllіng tо mаkе thаt kind оf commitment, уоu mау аѕ wеll close uр уоur Bible аnd gо bасk tо bed. Wіthоut thаt commitment, you’re nоt ready tо bе pure іn аn impure world. Yоu саn оnlу bе pure bу fоllоwіng God’s standard.
And, those of us who choose purity are ridiculed. We are made to feel that our choice is outdated, old-fashioned. We are subjected to humiliation. We are shamed. It is just as scriptures teach us:
The message of the cross is foolish to those who are headed for destruction! But we who are being saved know it is the very power of God. As the Scriptures say, “I will destroy the wisdom of the wise and discard the intelligence of the intelligent.” 1 Corinthians 1:18-19
Why do I choose purity?
The obvious answer is because I am a Christian, and I want to please God. God tells us that our bodies are his temple and we should not defile them (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). It tells us that there should be no hint of sexual immorality (Ephesians 5:3). It tells us that the marriage bed should be undefiled (Hebrews 13:4).
Pornography blinds us to God (Matthew 5:8). It blurs our eyes to his goodness, truth, and beauty.
Pornography trains us to treat women as objects, as less than human. It portrays them as possessions to be used and enjoyed, and then thrown away.
Lower Sexual Satisfaction and Sexual Dysfunction: A 2015 study of online sexual activities among males found 20.3% reported that “one motive for their porn use was to maintain arousal with their partner.” It also found that pornography use was linked to higher sexual desire, but lower overall sexual satisfaction, and lower erectile function.[i] Other research has correlated pornography use with “negative effects on partnered sex, decreased enjoyment of sexual intimacy, less sexual and relationship satisfaction.”